The female, on the left, has a stouter body with eyes farther apart. The male, on the right, has a slimmer body and larger eyes that are closer together.
I did find a half dozen spears of asparagus. I typically cut it into small lengths and microwave it for a couple of minutes in a little water with butter, salt, and pepper.
Well, that's what's happening in Bonnie's garden today. Hope things are growing in yours.